The Vampire test; know who is a vampire!

Vampires are mythical creatures known to feed on vital essence of human beings. . Have you ever felt so deflated after spending time with someone? The thought of meeting them next time is dreadful? While they don’t feed on your soul or blood, they do feed on your energy and positivity. Austin Kleon is a writer, who proposes we use the vampire test to determine who to let in and out of your life.

1. The vampire test to Identify toxic people

If after hanging out with someone, you feel worn out and depleted that person is a vampire. If after hanging out with someone you fell full of energy, that person is not a vampire. Simple right? It is important to identify who among your circle is a toxic person, because spending too much time with them can negatively impact you. This test is applicable not only to people but jobs workplaces etc.

2. Banish them

Now you know who is a vampire, you may be thinking about a specific person. What is next? The best thing is to gradually disappear from their life. be too busy or too tired for them. If you are really assertive, you can also tell them how you feel about hanging out with them. Although, you know how that conversation will go, so I am leaving that for your discretion.

3. set boundaries

It is not always easy to eliminate toxic people from your life. For example, if they are a close family member, or a co worker. Then it is important to set boundaries, although we know they will test it for sure. Start with a few boundaries and work your way up. Practice saying No!

You can’t cure a Vampire

Let this sink in. You will never be able to cure a vampire. They might have their own demons, but trying to cure them is probably out of your capabilities. They will keep draining your emotional and mental reserve and soon your mental health is impacted. You need to look after your own wellbeing, so you can be there for the people that you care for.

While, you are working your way through eliminating toxic people from your life here is an easy meditation technique to bring positivity to you.

If you are feeling overwhelmed with everything that is going on in your life, click here to read this helpful article on stress management.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. Have you come across vampires in your life? How did you manage them?